~my thoughts~

What Women Want In A Man

2011-10-10T10:23:00.000+08:00

I think this article best decribes the very qualities every woman looks for in a man and if a woman can't find such qualities, they should NOT settle for anything less. The very bare minimum qualities every worthy man should have or at least strive to have to make a great bf/partner/husband.

#1 A man who can respect her
This may seem easy to do, but do you really respect your wife or girlfriend?
Most guys always consider themselves to be know-it-alls and assume they’re better than their woman in every way. If you think your woman’s nothing but a sexy arm candy, how can you ever respect her?
Respect has to be earned, yes, but unless you truly believe that your woman has some great qualities and is even better than you in some aspects, you can never ever respect her. Learn to respect the woman in your life, and she’ll love you and respect you a lot more too.

#2 A man who can truly love her
You can gift your wife or girlfriend with pricy baubles and luxury vacations, but that’s not really the definition of love [Read: The meaning of love]. True love is shared in small ways, every single day. You don’t need to indulge in public display of affection or cuddling every evening while watching television. But you need to let your woman know in small ways how much she means to you. [Read: How to better a relationship to know all about this]
When you’re truly in love with your woman, pleasing her and compromising with either of your needs come naturally. Do you care about your woman’s feelings? Are you excited to hear about her day when you get back home? Do you look forward to spending time with your woman after work or do you get more excited to play games or watch the television? It’s the little things that really matter, and all these signs show.

#3 A man who can protect her
Women, as independent as they may be, still love to be in the company of a man they can rely upon in an edgy situation. They want to feel protected and taken care of, no matter what the circumstance. Can you be that guy? Do you think your woman really trusts that you can handle almost any troubling situation you get into?

#4 A man that she can look up to
Do you idolize or look up at anyone? All men have our own role models, whether it’s a freedom fighter, a business tycoon, an NFL player or a bodybuilder. You idolize them because those people have achieved so much and inspire you to become a better guy. If you truly want to know what women want in a man, be a man who can inspire people.
You don’t have to earn billions (would be great if you could) or win the Nobel Prize, but if you could make a difference in your own small ways, you could be that man. Be a good speaker, a great conversationalist, a great pool player, or just about anything else that’s beneficial in your life. As long as your woman is impressed with you for your skills, she’ll brag about it and love you for it!

#5 A man who is passionate
Women love a man who shows a lot of passion, not just in bed, but in everything a man believes in. Passionate men are inspiring and mysterious, and women love that.
You couldn’t care less about an explorer in the Amazonian jungles or Jack Sparrow on his escapades, but there’s something so sexy about these men. You don’t understand what it is that makes them so passionate, and this mystery only draws women to them. Be passionate about something meaningful, be it your entrepreneurial venture, your woodwork hobby or your tryst with writing a book or painting, and your woman will love you for the excitement and passion you bring into her life.

#6 A man she can trust and depend on
A trustworthy man who is dependable is hard to come by, and that’s what makes these men so sought after. It’s not that regular men can’t be dependable or trustworthy, it’s just that they don’t care enough about anything to take things seriously.
What women want in a man is dependability. A dependable man doesn’t let down his wife or girlfriend (though a rare occasion is excusable), be it the grocery list or helping her fix her furniture. To be a dependable man, you don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to be there for her, and help her in her time of need.

#7 A chivalrous man
Chivalry is old school, but it’s still something all women love and adore in a man. All men know what it takes to be a chivalrous man, but surprisingly, most men believe that being chivalrous is actually a sign of being meek and trying too hard to please a man. But contrary to what most men think, being chivalrous is not a sign of weakness, rather it’s a sign of respect by either of the sexes. By being chivalrous, it shows that you respect the woman, and be reciprocating to your chivalry, it shows that the woman respects you. [Read: How to charm a girl]

#8 A man who can groom himself
Yeah, let’s hit the basics again. You want a stunning woman with curves like a coke bottle, and a freak in bed, and a great talker and a dirty talker, and what not! And seriously, what are you offering her in return, a Homer Simpson lookalike? Seriously?
So look, the world is fair as long as you play fair and focus on reality. What women want in a man is attractiveness. If you want to be with a woman who’s everything you ever wanted to be physically, you’ve got to do whatever you can to look good for her too. Hit the gym often, go for an evening jog, or whatever works for you. Dress well and use a few manly cosmetics and rich colognes and perfumes. Look like a celebrity on the streets and women will trail you like you’re a real celebrity!

#9 A man who is ambitious
Ambitious guys could be laughed at, but when they make it big, they’re the sneering ones who can say “who’s laughing now?!” [Read: How to be successful in life]
Being ambitious is easy, but unless you do something about it and work your way towards your ambition every single day, who’s going to care who you are. An ambitious guy isn’t a guy who thinks of great things, he’s the guy who does great things. Be this guy and your woman and all other woman will love you and want you. Everyone likes a guy who can think big and achieve it. If you can ever be this guy, you’re right on top of the gene pool, and of course, pal, you’re Mr. Irresistible!

#10 A man who can dream
What women what in a man is a dreamer, be it a fantasizer in bed [Read: How to talk dirty in bed], a man who can envision his successful future, or a man who can tell magical stories while lazing on the hammock and watching the stars with his lover. Women love a man with an active imagination. Imagination is such a great companion at the end of a bad day, or while spending a romantic moment together. It’s cheerful, happy and such a burst of fresh air. Imaginative men create the best surprises, the most interesting conversations and the happiest moments in life. Seriously, which woman won’t love this guy and which man can avoid envying him?

What women want in a man
Now these ten traits may seem pretty far off for many men. But as surprising as it can seem, all these ten traits that women love are within every single man on earth. But it’s just that they don’t care enough to believe enough in themselves to be the best man they can be. [Read: What do girls like in guys?]

emotions

2011-10-10T01:46:00.000+08:00

I made a list today of reasons why I must get over him.. This list is to serve as a reminder not to give in to my feelings anymore but to be more rational and to think before doing anything next time..

But.. I still care for him very much.. N I'm concerned for him but there is nothing I can do..

I wish the feelings would go away easily but its really difficult especially when you see that person.. Maybe I'm just a lil' emotional now at this time of the month.. One thing's for sure, God has a plan for me and there must be a reason for all of these. I'm just gonna focus on my journey with God and I just have to trust Him that He knows what's best for me.. He always does.

Hurt

2011-07-20T04:32:00.006+08:00

I'm hurt.. very much hurt.. time and time again that person yelled at me and said the most hurtful things anyone could ever say to another. About my character, my personality, my friends, my family, my fears, my thoughts, my work, my hobbies, and even my looks. I tolerated it, although most often than not, I answered back or ran away and hide. But that didn't stop the hurt. I thought that by being offensive, it would be my best defense to feel less hurt. But again, that didn't stop the hurt.

I gave everything, mentally and emotionally. I brought down my guards and walls slowly by slowly over the years.. My safety barriers. It might have felt good at some point, but later on I realised it was only used against me. I kept telling myself, I won't be able to find someone better. He loves me, I guess he probably did.. But not the kind of love I was looking for.. I wanted free, neverending, eternal, supportive, warm, trusting, comforting, carefree love. It was more of hot, lustful, cold, bitter, sweet, restrained, obliged, bonded love. He had expectations, its not that I never did. I think I did loved him for who he was but I just needed space, trust, and the freedom to be myself. He compared me to other women and wanted me to be more like them. Maybe its a valid expectation for some people, but it just hurts. I'm not loved for who I am but for what I am expected to be.

I value someone who is responsible, caring, understanding, faithful, trustworthy, which I do find he is at times. But, all that goes away when he gets angry and he lets it out on me. I then run to my friends which always backfires because they tell me things I didn't want to hear. So I chose not to hear. It just kept hurting and hurting. There were many times even when feeling hurt, I'd be hoping he would just say sorry so I could just run back to his arms. But again, more often that not, I was left dissappointed that I still ran back and just tried to forget the hurting inside.

I tried and I tried, but the hurting kept coming back with more painful words said. One whole week of torture, crying every night without fail because that person had hurt me and had been silent for a week. I was lost, and I was hurt. I had no idea what was going on. I thought he would say sorry for hurting me. I wanted him to say sorry and that he will never do that again. I was hoping and I was just waiting to run back to him. Just waiting. But it never happened, he was now angry at me for having a male friend to turn to.

14.07.11- I read a post on LoveGivesMeHope... I teared, I just wanted to call him and tell him how upset and angry I was.. I was thinking that just maybe....just maybe... he hasn't figured it out..

But... that's when it ended.

I would have ran back to him, if he just said sorry. I really would have....

Finally, I realised it... It hit me so hard in the head and in my heart. He didn't hurt me, he never did. It was me. Yes, me all along. I hurt myself. I kept slitting my wrist deeper and deeper. I allowed myself to experience that pain, if it wasn't for me, it wouldnt have happened. If only I had love myself more and treated myself better. It wasn't his fault nor anyone else just me and only me..

I don't want to see him anymore. It would just remind me of the wounds on my wrist. My 3 and a half year old wounds... "It wasn't supposed to end this way, I was supposed to be happy....." WRONG!

Love yourself more, Shaleni. You deserve a better you.

Something old-

2011-07-19T19:59:00.001+08:00

Some old post I didnt post for some reason in the past- since, its here in my draft, why don't I just post it.. Might just help me understand meself better... As for the last part, I hope so TOO! LOL

Guys Think You're Easy to Be With... But Not Easy

You're definitely a flirt - and a good one.

But you also know that you shouldn't make a move on any cute guy who passes by.

You save your seductive moves for someone who already knows the real you.

That way, your sex appeal is just part of the whole package.

You Are a Natural Beauty!

You're the kind of beauty that every guy dreams about...

One that looks good in the morning - without a stich of makeup

That's doesn't mean you're a total hippie chic though

You have style, but for you, style is effortless

You Are a Tiny Tease

You like to flirt and show off your body, but what confident woman doesn't.

You enjoy male attention, and you're usually pretty good at not leading men on.

However, there are times when you get carried away with your sexy behavior.

It's okay to use your amazing flirting powers for good - but never for evil!

You'll Find Love Where You Least Expect It

You're the type most likely to find love... surprised?

You shouldn't be! You're a fun, independent woman who is always out and about.

And you're smart to sometimes leave your girlfriends behind and go it alone.

Men love to approach you when you're out by yourself - including Mr. Perfect!

Where Will You Find Love?

Blast from the past..

2011-07-19T19:37:00.002+08:00

Below is an entry I posted ages ago, on 22.01.2007.. N looking at that, I STILL have to work on those in the to-do list and I am pretty much satisfied with what I don't want to change in my 2nd list.. How crazy is that?! LOL 4 years plus ago I've already identified my issues.. but the down side, I haven't really worked on all of it yet.. Pretty much all are still Work In Progress.. yikess..

You Are Confident and Secure

You are practically immune to insecurity and self doubt.

You're comfortable with who you are, and if someone doesn't like you - that's not your problem.

Some people think you're too confident, but that's just their insecurities shining through.

Your confidence carries you through your worst moments, because you know you'll always come out fine.

Are You Insecure?

im actually getting a teeeny weeny bit worried now that i might be too confident... which could backfire actualy... for instance.... i seem to be soo happy where i am and how i am now i don't really wanna change... but actually i should especially to fix my weaknesses... but...

do i wanna change?

........................................................................................................................................................................

what do i wanna change of myself?

to be less lazy
to cut the word 'procrastinate' out off my dictionary
to cut short my bumming around time
to SLEEP less
to study more
to read the newspapers on a daily basis
i want to be more dedicated to God
i don't want to give in to temptation anymore
i want to lead a healthier life.. exercise more,drink more water,eat more fruits (su zhen will be proud of me)
to overcome my ridiculous fears

i guess to all that i do wanna change or should i say alter myself..

to be better.... to be more efficient.. to succeed....

but to the other stuff... like my personality,my independence,my thinking,my character...
i don't wanna change... but to a certain extend i am worried that at the rate of how i'm living my life... i'll not be able to achieve certain goals i want to achieve in life...

the stuff that i don't wanna change bout myself now..

my independence
my numbness
my character
my single life

the reason why i don't wanna change..

i don't see any reason for me to change...

i guess ill just wait and will change when i actually find a reason(s) to change...
till then cheers...

*back to studying chem5*

Fast forward to 2011

2011-07-19T19:20:00.009+08:00

Gosh, thanks to my bro, I remembered this long lost blog of mine. Its been like almost 4 years since I last updated/even posted on my blog. I guess its that time again when I find comfort in blogging and just speaking my mind and pouring out what's in my heart.
Very sadly as my previous posts will tell, I tend to only update/write on my blog when I'm not feeling very positive or something big just dropped on me.. like something life-changing..

Now its 2011, hmm where did I left off? hmmm....
In a nutshell, I started my degree in 2007, met a lot of new people, stumbled and had loads of hiccups in my academic results, made even more awesome and life-long friends, had a new love interest, graduated in the UK, started work, bought my own crib, driving my dad's old car, and re-sitting my clp for the 2nd time.

And how do I feel about all that? Sweet with a cube of bitterness especially in the after taste.
I thought I had it all figured, I thought I met the man of life (again- LOL), I thought I'd finally met a true bestfriend (again), I thought I'd not have anymore family problems (again), I thought I'd be much more happier, and with more freedom to do anything my heart desires with financial independence (most of the time-except when I have debts I totally disagree), I thought I can fly like a bird and just run away from all my problems (no-way hosay!), and I thought that most learning stops after u've graduated(big big mistake)..That pretty much sums up what I've learned.

What I am today that I am proud of- I am definetely a much better person and a much wiser one and also a better Christian. I am still learning, I have learnt that I will never be able to reach even close to almost perfect. What saddens me though, its the number of mistakes that I made over and over again before learning. And I am pretty sure I am still making those mistakes and will still continue to do so.

Reads...

2008-09-05T01:00:00.005+08:00

After my finals in May, I got myself engrossed in reading.. Yup read, read. Something that
I enjoyed very much back when I was in primary and the early secondary school.

I started of by reading 'Why men don't have a clue, and women always need more shoes.' A light start, it being an ultimate guide to the opposite sex which I felt I was in need of at that time. This book doesn't really give an all insight to the complexities of the differences between opposite sex but it does give some good clues on how to deal with some problems pertaining your opposite sex.

Then I went on to one of the famous Dan Brown books, 'Angels and Demons.' This was one really huge adventure. It was pretty good and very intelligent of the author to be very creative and use especially the artworks in sculpture and architecture of renown artists in the renaissance age as clues to the whole chase. This read actually rekindled my interest in the renaissance time which I have always had an eye for since school days itself. I wished we were exposed to more of the works and the discoveries made during that era as a student. But the fact is we're not and we have to undertake our own research to fulfill out queries and interests as such.

Both these books are courtesy of Su Zhen which I have yet to return n I will do so asap when I'm back in KL..

By the end of these two reads, I was thirsty for more reading. To fulfill my new found free time and well to fulfill my imagination I would say and also always having something exciting to look forward to. ASTRO is now longer any different from local TV and a good book is certainly the only way to keep me seated down without feeling restless.

Amazingly I've also noticed that reading made me stayed at home more without feeling trapped, in fact feeling so peaceful and excited. Its wonderful what a bunch of written pages can do to u.. That's another way of looking at it.. LOL

We need more perak people!

2008-08-08T23:09:00.002+08:00

PS: U can actually make money from these surveys. Well i do..
:-)

my personality info!

2008-08-08T22:45:00.001+08:00

breathe (2am) - Anna Nalick

2008-01-09T19:43:00.000+08:00

2 AM and she calls me 'cause I'm still awake
Can you help me unravel my latest mistake
I don't love him
Winter just wasn't my season
Yeah we walk through the doors
So accusing their eyes
Like they have any right at all to critisize
Hypocrites, you're all here for the very same reason

'Cause you can't jump the track
We're like cars on a cable
And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table
No one can find the rewind button girl
So cradle your head in you hands
And breathe, just breathe,
Woah breathe, just breathe

May he turn 21 on the base at Fort Bliss
Just today he sat down to the flask in his fist
Ain't been sober, since maybe October of last year
Here in town you can tell he's been down for a while
But my God it's so beautiful when the boy smiles
Wanna hold him, maybe I'll just sing about it

Cause you can't jump the track
We're like cars on a cable
And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table
No one can find the rewind button boys
So cradle your head in your hands
And breathe, just breathe
Woah breathe, just breathe

There's a light at each end of this tunnel
You shout 'cause you're just as far in as you'll ever be out
These mistakes you've made
You'll just make them again
If you only try turning around

2 AM and I'm still awake
Writing a song if I get it all down on paper
Its no longer inside of me
Treatening the life they belong to
And I feel like I'm naked in front of the crowd
Cause these words are my diary, screaming out loud
And I know that you'll use them, however you want to

Cause you can't jump the track
We're like cars on a cable
And life's like an hourglass, glued to the table
No one can find the rewind button now
Sing it if you understand
And breathe, just breathe
Woah breathe, just breathe
Oh breathe, just breathe..

why?

2008-01-02T00:20:00.000+08:00

why? why?

why does this keep happening? why can't my life
be normal? why can't i have a normal family life?
why must there be so much of problems?

i am so fed up.....

schema therapy

2007-12-27T04:21:00.000+08:00

Jeffrey E. Young, PhD, a cognitive psychologist and clinical researcher at Columbia University Medical Center says most people follow a pattern in their life laid out from early childhood. These "schemas" shape our relationships and life choices. People tend to relate to one or more of these 18 schemas. Which schema or schemas sound familiar to you?

These are mine..

Emotional Deprivation
Most of the time, these patients haven't had someone to nurture them, to care deeply about everything that happens to them or someone who was tuned in to their true feelings and needs.

Entitlement
Those who hate to be constrained or kept from doing what they want or feel that they shouldn't have to follow the normal rules and conventions other people do.

Pretty true indeed..

Try this quiz if u think u have one..
Click here...

of anger and hurt and new beginnings..

2007-12-25T22:36:00.000+08:00

just when you start giving in and opening up again
and allowing yourself to be vulnerable... and foolishly
thinking perhaps just perhaps that somebody will
understand me

BAAAM!

i am so wrong..

people still don't get me.. correction there are people who do -
like my darling nabila.. who knows me the best and
NEVER EVER judges me for anything and well God is not
counted HE is not human.. but the rest, the humans..

my so called good friend..

know not a shit about me.. only make me feel worse than crap for
opening up...

me immature??

i have loads of shit going on at home.. i have to help carry some if not all..
its tiring to be Ms.StrongWoman all the time.. i need breaks.. i need
people who will lend a ear, people who wont judge me..

who will just listen to me being a girl, to cry for help.. since i can't
do that at home...

what's wrong with that??

had enough

im done.. FINALLY

everything does happen for a reason..

thank you God..
it may seem like my worst christmas ever..
but i think its gona be the best...

love, life, etc

2007-10-22T02:37:00.000+08:00

im back to square 1 nw questioning what is love?
the 4 letter word that seem to have caused me a lota mixed feelings
throughout my life..

no, not the kinda family love.. its the other kind the boy-gal kind..
how do you know if love still exists?
how do you know if love can prevail?
how do you even know that what you're feeling is actually love?

argggh.. matters of the heart just irritate me soo much these days..
its not all about me here.. its also the ppl close to me who seem to be
triggering these thoughts of mine..
i just wish i could just shut down the heart.. and focus on everything else..

but no... i cant.. well technically if i shoot my own heart i can
but then again you never really know if your heart actually stops having feelings
even after death...
who knows anyways...

its funny i used to dislike Grey's Anatomy cause i felt that matters of the
heart were exaggerated there.. but now.. i could relate to it.. funny..

................

the same stuff really seem to be happening to me again and again..
and this only makes me wonder WHY??!!
it cant be coincidences its too much.. it cant always be them
maybe its ME..? seriously...

perhaps i should do something bout this before it creeps up to me
before it blossoms then ill be stuck..
should we prevent something that we feel is bound to happen or should
we just give in to nature to take its course although if this happens
its gona hurt badly...
what is the answer to that??

i really wana know.. if there is an answer.. i hope and pray to find it...

*an emo post...

Get to know him better...

2007-09-27T02:15:00.000+08:00

Abraham Lincoln once said...
"I don't like that man. I'm going to have to get to know him better"

that's a real positive attitude from the 16th president of the United States.. and a good example of what most people today should follow..
i mean seriously.. people these days based everything on 1st impression.. how true is 1st impression??

does ones look 100% tells evrytg about that person?? i mean if that was the case then the rate of crimes wouldnt be as high as it is today as every one could tell that by a person's look that that person is a criminal! soo run!!!!

back to reality.. WE ARE NOT LIVING IN THAT WORLD! that world in not existent.. imaginary indeed.. therefore by simplying judging ppl based on their distinct look, race, religion, gender, and even age is plainly UNFAIR!

we should ALWAYS get to know the person better before even making the slightest remark of that person...

so take a pause n appreciate the words of the late Abraham Lincoln and the old saying... 'never judge a book by its cover'

from today onwards i will try my best to get to know every single person that i seem to not like at 1st instance.. i could make a big difference.. so can everybody...

anew..

2007-09-13T03:45:00.000+08:00

my dear blog has been abandoned for 3months! poor thing! looks like its about time to revamp my blog.. YES NABILA and REBECCA! haha

ive been busy busy.. for the past few months! exams.. studying n all.. but unfortunately i still didnt do well.. in fact i did badly.. i had to resit.. hopefully my resits would be much better.. 2nd year i really have to work on my studying skill.. Tony Buzan better help me out...

oh yeah i bought this book Tony Buzan's study handbook... ive been using it to study 'effectively' for my resits... hope it works.. studying for law has taught me a lot.. its absolutely unlike A'levels n nothing at all like high school.. to me now.. its no more about memorizing.. its about understanding what u learn n applying it... its definetely easier said than done... well.. isnt life all about learning...

back to revamping my blog... i am in the process of doing so...
so my dearest lesbian girlfriend pls be patient for nw.. hehehe

fun!

2007-05-24T03:01:00.000+08:00

The past two days (22/5/07) and (23/5/07) was fabulous! met up with most of my A'level friends, hanged out, bringing back memories of old times in college.. it was fun indeed..

A good friend of mine, Dharma is leaving to India next week for studies..
ALL THE BEST TO DHARMA!!

And another good friend of mine, Johno 's birthday was on the 23rd..
HAPPY 2oth BIRTHDAY TO JOHNO!!

*hopefully ill be able to get my hands on the pics soon to post them up..

suck the poison out...

2007-05-23T02:20:00.000+08:00

something I noticed recently when by right I should have notice it a long time ago.. yeahh probably too blurr to notice.. we all have poisons in our life.. n these poisons comes in all types and forms, shapes and sizes, colours and textures..

the thing is.. all these poison has the same purpose though it comes with different features.. which is well (duhh) poison US or OUR LIVES.. each of us have our own poison.. like for some, its their cigarette/smoking... which poisons and could kill... for others, it could even be shopping, the opposite sex, their parent, friend..

poisonous in this sense means a threat or danger to oneself... which could lead to the poison harming oneself directly (such as the cigie) or indirectly (shopping,etc).. each individual has their own specific poison which is very unique and different from others.

the effect of poison could even kill oneself either physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally or even a combination.

and if we really sit n look at out lives, we could easily identify these poisons.. and what "way" this poisons are affecting us.. and again, through examination, we can come through a conclusion that the poison is the main source of the problem(s) we face..

there is another category of poison which is probably the deadliest... "self-induced poison".. it has no or very minor outside source.. so, to kill this poison takes a lot more than the rest..

so what do we do??... GET RID OF THE POISON!! seriously... suck it out! poke it! do whatever it takes... some poison may leave a scar or an after effect... like my old poison, it still has its scar in me today... which has become a new poison to me and I have to constantly remind myself to fight it....

so Shal, fight it! Kill it! before it kills you!

the war has just begun....

What major is for me...

2007-05-19T13:49:00.001+08:00

You scored as HR/BusinessManagement. You should strongly consider majoring (or minoring) in Human Resources Management or Business Management, or related majors (e.g., Entrepreneurship, Hospitality, International Business, Leadership, Public Administration, Industrial-Organizational (I-O) Psychology).

It is possible that the best major for you is your 2nd, 3rd, or even 5th listed category, so be sure to consider ALL majors in your OTHER high scoring categories (below). You may score high in a category you didnt think you would--it is possible that a great major for you is something you once dismissed as not for you. The right major for you will be something 1) you love and enjoy and 2) are really great at it.

Consider adding a minor or double majoring to make yourself standout and to combine your interests. Excellent minors for HR/Business majors include: Psychology, Sociology, or other areas of business like Economics, Finance, or Marketing.

Religion/Theology

88%

HR/BusinessManagement

88%

Psychology/Sociology

81%

PoliticalScience/Philosophy

81%

English/Journalism/Comm

75%

Education/Counseling

69%

History/Anthropology/LiberalArts

69%

Visual&PerformingArts

69%

Nursing/AthleticTraining/Health

50%

Accounting/Finance/Marketing

50%

French/Spanish/OtherLanguage

50%

Biology/Chemistry/Geology

38%

Physics/Engineering/Computer

25%

Mathematics/Statistics

WHAT MAJOR IS RIGHT FOR YOU?
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>>>looks like its pretty true.. esp the maths part.. hahaha... i hate maths!!
i most certainly made the right choice in choosing law.. thank God i did.. ;-P

Mother's Day...

2007-05-17T18:20:00.001+08:00

Mother's day is celebrated on the 1st Sunday of the month of May in most countries. To me it is a day to show appreciation to my mum although we should be appreciating our mothers every day this day is somehow different. Its a celebration of mothers.

On the 13th of May this year, my mum was in Pakistan due to work and was unfortunately somehow caught up in the whole riot that lead to shootings, and killings in the middle of Karachi.
I am so thankful to God that she and her colleagues managed to come back home safely and only suffered a delay in their flight schedule. Anyway, I did get to spend a few hours with my mum for mother's day. That was a great thing.

Here is a brief history on how mother's day came about.

The earliest mother's day celebrations can be traced back to the spring celebrations of ancient Greece in honor of Rhea, the Mother of the Gods. During the 1600's, England celebrated a day called "Mothering Sunday". Celebrated on the 4th Sunday of Lent (the 40 day period leading up to Easter), "Mothering Sunday"* honored the mothers of England.

During this time many of the England's poor worked as servants for the wealthy. The servants would live at the houses of their employers. On Mothering Sunday the servants would have the day off and were encouraged to return home and spend the day with their mothers. A special cake, called the mothering cake, was often brought along to provide a festive touch.

As Christianity spread throughout Europe the celebration changed to honor the "Mother Church" - the spiritual power that gave them life and protected them from harm. Over time the church festival blended with the Mothering Sunday celebration. People began honoring their mothers as well as the church.

In the United States Mother's day was first suggested in 1872 by Julia Ward Howe (who wrote the words to the Battle hymn of the Republic) as a day dedicated to peace. Ms. Howe would hold organized Mother's Day meetings in Boston, Mass every year.

In 1907 Ana Jarvis, from Philadelphia, began a campaign to establish a national Mother's Day. Ms. Jarvis persuaded her mother's church in Grafton, West Virginia to celebrate Mother's Day on the second anniversary of her mother's death, the 2nd Sunday of May. By the next year Mother's Day was also celebrated in Philadelphia.

Ms. Jarvis and her supporters began to write to ministers, businessman, and politicians in their quest to establish a national Mother's Day. It was successful as by 1911 Mother's Day was celebrated in almost every state. President Woodrow Wilson, in 1914, made the official announcement proclaiming Mother's Day as a national holiday that was to be held each year on the 2nd Sunday of May.

While many countries of the world celebrate their own Mother's Day at different times throughout the year, there are some countries such as Denmark, Finland, Italy, Turkey, Australia, and Belgium which also celebrate Mother's Day on the second Sunday of May.

And to add some smile..

Mother's Day Jokes
The Stages Of Motherhood

4 Years Of Age - My Mommy can do anything;

8 Years Of Age - My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot

12 Years Of Age -My Mother doesn't really know quite everything.

14 Years Of Age -Naturally, Mother doesn't know that, either

16 Years Of Age -Mother? She's hopelessly old-fashioned

18 Years Of Age -That old woman? She's way out of date

25 Years Of Age -Well, she might know a little bit about it

35 Years Of Age -Before we decide, let's get Mom's opinion

45 Years Of Age -Wonder what Mom would have thought about it

65 Years Of Age -Wish, I could talk it over with Mom

PS: carnations are flowers associated with mothers. guess ill know what to get my mum next year..

feelings~ improvised..

2007-05-06T17:52:00.000+08:00

feelings...

its complicated..u can never predict how u feel n what u wanna feel n when, where u wanna feel.. it just comes n goes as it wishes.. joy? pleasure? pain? hurt? these r de feelings we feel.. LOVE? the most complicated feeling of all.. cuz it includes joy,pleasure,pain n hurt.. n well it can happen simultaneously..

a fren of mine asked me whats de opposite of LOVE... HATE? nope its INDIFFERENCE.. cuz even if u hate the person doesnt mean tat u dun even like the person..but indifference means no possible love at all... confusing huh..

i feel hurt,betrayed,lost,confused... y? ..because of the illusion of LOVE.. u think it was but it never was... so what was it... LIKE? LUST? PASSION? hmmm nope... i dunno n dun think ill ever know.. perhaps i dun even wanna know... things happen 4 the best..always does...

June 23, 2006

~this was an old entry by me almost a year ago from my old blog..

here i stand today, still agreeing to every word i said in this entry... as a matter of fact even further strengthening my view..

feelings are simply indescribable.. and unexpected.. u cant expect or plan yourself in a way to feel something.. it just comes and goes...

CONCENTRATE.....!

2007-05-06T01:19:00.000+08:00

gosh... i've got an assignment due on monday and i have like bout a day left and i'm barely done..
the reason... loss of concentration all thanks to GREEN HOT CHILLIES.. (CILI PADI) which caused me a severe headache and noises in my stomach for a few days already...

I need my concentration back desperately....!!

stupid chillies..

sense...

2007-04-24T14:14:00.000+08:00

its barely few hours and I'm already feeling a sense of loss..
something is just missing.. and I'm missing that something..
the familiarity that I never would thought I would miss, now I simply do..

its like I'm not gonna see that something for a short while now..
and it beats me that I'm not going to..
though its for a short period..

so what does this mean???
is it a yes or a no...?
or its simply human nature to always want something that we do not have

but then I almost have it now..
i think i do, at least that's how that something makes me feel
all this just makes me even sure that this is different, this is real

i really really hope so now..
and I'm so glad I'm finally feeling..
i hope its real

I'll be prepared though if it isn't
just in case, so I wont be disappointed
but I know its a risk I'm willing to take

as a friend of mine said,
'life is all about taking risk..
if u don't then you're not living at all...'

*the 1 week countdown begins...

Save Me

2007-04-17T17:50:00.000+08:00

Save Me by Aimee Mann

You look like... a perfect fit,
For a girl in need... of eternal care.
But can you save me?
Come on and save me...
If you could save me,
From the ranks of the freaks,
Who suspect they could never love anyone.

'Cause I can tell... you know what it's like.
A long farewell... of the hunger strike.
But can you save me?
Come on and save me...
If you could save me,
From the ranks of the freaks,
Who suspect they could never love anyone.

You struck me dumb, Like radium
Like Peter Pan, or Superman,
You have come... to save me.
Come on and save me...
If you could save me,
From the ranks of the freaks,
Who suspect they could never love anyone,
Except the freaks,
Who suspect they could never love anyone,
But the freaks,
Who suspect they could never love anyone.

Come on and save me...
Why don't you save me?
If you could save me,
From the ranks of the freaks,
Who suspect they could never love anyone,
Except the freaks,
Who suspect they could never love anyone,
Except the freaks,
Who could never love anyone.

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hmmm... i'm probably one of the freaks..

"let the song speaks for itself"...

of holiday and home...

2007-04-14T23:34:00.001+08:00

i'm reaching the end of my 1 week holiday.... pondering on my whole 1 week which just flew in a blink..

well i went home last sunday and only returned on wednesday.. and i didn't even bother leaving the house at all till it was time 2 board the bus...lol..i had a "fabulastic" time at home.. gosh how much I've been deprived of home cooked meals, missed my mum's cooking a lot!! oh yeah and my wonderful, irritating, sickening, crazy, funny siblings.. spend loads of time with them just doing useless activity.. not to mention how they kept picking on my "cartwheels" haha.. i deserved that.. for a 50% of a cartwheel..

the past almost 2yrs I've been in KL this is one of those times i really missed home... and everything that comes with it... I used to think that I'd only miss home when I first came and not still feel the same 2 yrs later.. i was so wrong..

the whole comfy feeling of home,the smell, the atmosphere, the colourful walls (yup), ohhh not to mention the most important thing ~THE NOISEE~ haha.. its not too noisy nor is it too quiet.. its simply HOME...

then again, we all have our 'home' which is also 'haven' to some and 'hell' to others.. classes is starting in a day's time and I've got to hand in an assignment by the end of the week.. not to mention tests coming up.. gota work my @$$ on it.. well i better...

PS:to friends out there... I've been deprived of home cooked meal.. :-( *hint hint* hehe :-P

2007-04-13T19:17:00.000+08:00

You Are Very Happy

Your life is totally together, and you enjoy every day.

And you don't need a quiz to tell you that!

You know how to find pleasure in the little things...

And even when life isn't so great, you have a good sense of perspective.

How Happy Are You, Really?

You Are 37% Selfish

In general, you are a very giving person who treats others very well.

But at times, you insist on getting your way - when it matters most to you.

How Selfish Are You?

You Are 40% Perfectionist

Occasionally you have perfectionist tendencies, but overall you're pretty normal.

You're sometimes hard on yourself, but you usually focus on what you're doing right!

Are You a Perfectionist?

You Are 34% Feminine, 66% Masculine

You are in touch with your masculine side.

You are not overly sensitive and not easily moved.

Occasionally, though, something will get through and touch your heart!

Are You Masculine or Feminine?

Your Lucky Underwear is Green

You're a total go getter who will scrape and crawl to get to the top. And your lucky green underwear will help you get there without a struggle.

A fast learner, you enjoy a good mental challenge - whether it's getting your law degree or running a successful business.

Sometimes you push too hard to succeed, alienating friends and wearing yourself out in the process.

If you want to reach your goals while still maintaining a full life, put on your green underpants. They'll help you slow down and enjoy life.

What Color Is Your Lucky Underwear?

interesting quizzies!

2007-04-12T22:09:00.000+08:00

You Are 27 Years Old

Under 12: You are a kid at heart. You still have an optimistic life view - and you look at the world with awe.

13-19: You are a teenager at heart. You question authority and are still trying to find your place in this world.

20-29: You are a twentysomething at heart. You feel excited about what's to come... love, work, and new experiences.

30-39: You are a thirtysomething at heart. You've had a taste of success and true love, but you want more!

40+: You are a mature adult. You've been through most of the ups and downs of life already. Now you get to sit back and relax.

What Age Do You Act?

Good Friday & Easter..

2007-04-12T20:02:00.000+08:00

yeahh i know im 1 week behind time but what the heck! lolzz

a chain of events last week made me realised that quite a number of people out there who are CLUELESS to what is actually Good Friday and Easter all about.. here I am giving a short intro to the significance of this two days which has nothing to do with easter bunnies,eggs or withcraft.

~GOOD FRIDAY~
This is the day of the crucifixion of Jesus Christ.
This represents the day in which Christians believe that Jesus Christ gave up His life to save us, mankind.

~EASTER~
This is the day in which Jesus Christ was resurrected.
This represents the day that Jesus died and rose again, He lives.

The "Easter Bunny" is a traditional holiday character in the form of a rabbit which is said to leave gifts, usually Easter baskets for children at Easter (or at springtime).

It originates in Western European cultures, where it is a hare rather than a rabbit, and in the eastern half of the continent it also has a long tradition in Hungary.

The Easter Bunny is an example of folktore mythology. Other prominent characters are Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy.

Some families participate in the roles of this myth without believing in it literally as a form of play or tradition.

'perfume'

2007-03-31T15:08:00.000+08:00

Alas I finally managed to watch a movie in the cinema where it feels like it was ages since I last did.. well it was pretty much ages ago.. felt like I've been missing out soo much on the 'outside' world.. if someone were to ask me before today what was the latest movie out or the latest tv show people are hooked on to, I would have answered I have no idea at all!! Its not that I know much today but well a lot more as compared to the days before.. lol..

Anyway i went out for a movie with Nabila, my bestie... (hehe) not knowing what movie to watch, just simply deciding few minutes beforehand. We decided to watch 'Perfume' the story of a murderer...

The thing is I DO NOT... hmm no no I NEVER get scared or affected in any way by any horror movie in my life before.. well at least not that i can remember of.. don't get me wrong this isn't a horror flick but its disturbing, obsessive, simply different.. To understand this is to just watch the movie..

Here is my 'sneak preview' of the movie.. ENJOY..

Based on a best selling novel by Patrick Suskind 'Perfume : the story of a murderer' is a story of a deadly obsession set in the 18th century France.

Jean-Baptiste Grenouille, an orphan as a newborn in the streets of Paris with a remarkable gift of sense of smell. His sense of smell is so refined that he can differentiate the scent of leaves, the grass and even water.

At the age of 13, he was sold into servitude to a tannery and he worked very hard here as he wants to leave this place and learn more scents of the world.

There comes a day when Grenouille runs errands in the town of Paris and discovers the object that will transform his life : Perfume.

Eager to learn the art of sophisticated fragrance making, he meets a once-renowned perfume maker and seeks his help to teach him the art and secrets behind scents. In exchange by using his remarkable gift he creates and makes perfumes for the perfumer that no other makers could do.

Ironically, he was born with no scent of his own, a distinction which colours his undistinguished life. But Genouille is fearless when it comes to the pursuit of a perfect perfume. When he discovers the most intoxicating scent he has ever experienced, the scent of a beautiful young woman. He then feels that he has found his purpose in life, which becomes his obsession to fulfill that leads on to his journey.

To watch and truly 'taste' this movie is to watch this movie with an open mind and then can one understand this movie and the meaning behind 'obsession'.

WARNING : This movie is certainly not for the faint hearted.

Numb..

2007-03-24T03:07:00.000+08:00

I'm so numb I'm blur, I'm dreamy, ....

I'm uncertain...

I love every part of my work. Without my work I'm lost...

BusYneSS....

2007-03-24T02:34:00.000+08:00

I seem to be getting busier by the day these days..
lots of assignments, tutorial work, reading, practice....
and mid terms are just around the corner..

again I'm not complaining just working hard on my time management
and i pray for wisdom.. to learn and know how to manage everything
to the best it can be..

and yesterday just when I was in the midst of juggling lots of work,
the electricity just had to go off.. not to mention only a few rooms.
unfortunately mine included...

and amazingly I still had the time to have fun.. Maisons.. haha...

and I haven't watch a movie in quite a while so I really have to
find the time to do so 1 of these days... don't want to drain
myself out..

anyways that was yesterday..
today is all about work.. (ok and sleep too)
well WORK, here I come!! hohoho......

fear

2007-03-11T20:28:00.000+08:00

'Face your fears now before its too late'

Its amazingly easy to say so but when you are placed in such situation(s) it becomes incredibly tough..

I have a fear of heights.. a major one.. its pretty bad that i NEVER went on a roller-coaster, its THAT bad that i cannot be a flyer although the people around me tried their very best to make me stand at high places and not scream at the top of my lungs.

I am scared of lizards.. This would definitely fit in the category of irrational fears.

I have a phobia of people touching their eyes or mine.

Those are some of my physical fears..

Here are some of my mental and emotional fears...

I am scared to fall deeply...

I am scared to get hurt (again)..

I am scared to give so much and not get anything in return..

I am scared I will never allow myself to fall again.. To never give myself the chance to fall again..

I am scared I will lose that opportunity to fall all thanks to my fear..

I am scared that I am simply too happy and contented with life now (cause I am) that i don't want to seek anymore beyond what I already have..

Quotes on FEAR...

Sara Paddison, The Hidden Power of the Heart
If you are dealing with fears and insecurities from old head programs, have compassion for yourself. Just love your insecurities, fears and resentments. Release and forgive them as they come up. Judging, beating or repressing insecurities just gives them power. Then you have a pattern that never gets resolved. Recognize that your real security is built from your relationship with your own heart.

Japenese proverb
Fear is only as deep as the mind allows

Robin Williams, One Hour Photo
The things which we fear the most in life have already happened to us.

Marylin Manson
One hates what one fears.

Bertrand Russell
To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.

Byron Janis
Fear breeds fear.

Rodan of Alexandria
Only a brave person is willing to honestly admit, and fearlessly to face, what a sincere and logical mind discovers.

Edward Morgan Forster
I would rather be a coward than brave because people hurt you when you are brave.

Bertrand Arthur William Russell
Worry is a form of fear, and all forms of fear produce fatigue. A man who has learned not to feel fear will find th fatigue of daily life enormously diminished.

Graham Greene - The Confidential Agent (1939)
One of the things which danger does to you after a time is -, well, to kill emotion. I don't think I shall ever feel anything again except fear. None of us can hate anymore - or love.

Louis E. Boone
Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.

Cyril Connoly
Hate is the consequence of fear; we fear something before we hate it; a child who fears noises becomes a man who hates noise.

Dale Carnegie
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

The Vatican Sayings, Epicurus
Men imagine that celestial bodies are divine yet ascribe to them purposes inconsistent with divinity; and they anticipate eternal suffering after death. Peace of mind follows freedom from such fears, and will be gained if we trust to our immediate feelings and sensations.

Aristotle
Wicked men obey for fear, but the good for love.

Marie Curie
Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.

Rancid
That feeling isn't fear, it's just telling you to MOVE!!

Anonymous
Fear is the prison of the heart.

Lloyd Cassel Douglas
If a man harbors any sort of fear, it percolates through all his thinking, damages his personality, makes him landlord to a ghost.

Anon
Fear not that your life will someday end. Fear only that you do nothing with it.

Swedish Proverb
Fear less, hope more; eat less, chew more; whine less, breathe more; talk less, say more; hate less, love more; and all good things are yours.

Elbert Hubbard
The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing that you will make one.

Confusion??

2007-03-02T16:13:00.000+08:00

i know that some certain people has misunderstood me... and i would really like to clear it all up with that person... but unfortunately that person seems to be kinda avoiding me.. and i honestly do not see a reason why that person is doing so..

the thing is i don't really know why till recently... i kind of figured out that the person has misjudged and misinterpreted my actions..

because i am someone who really do not like being judged and simply assumed about.. well, who likes being judged and assumed about?? nobody does... and i personally try my very best not to ever judge others.

so i find myself asking, what can i do?

well nothing much actually.. i could talk with that person but how... if that person is ignoring me? if i really did something wrong, i really didn't meant to.. cause i really do appreciate this person as a good friend and would want to keep in touch... thats the sad part, looks like that is not possible anymore... its a shame... guess i just have to live and deal with it... its simply part and parcel of life..

these are quoted from one of the oldest and best selling books around- THE BIBLE..

the phrases that acts as reminders to me...

Matthew 7:1-15

Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.